How to be a Friendly Boss and effective Leader

Question: Dear VitalSmarts India,
I’ve been told that one cannot be an effective boss by being a friend to those one supervises. I have some serious concerns about this as I feel that being a friend at work is a good way to gain employee confidence and performance.

I’m concerned about where to draw the line between being a friend and being a boss, and how to set the proper environment where friendship is allowed and being a boss is respected. How can I be both an effective boss and also a friend to my employees?
Subodh Mehra

 Answers: Dear Subodh,
The challenge you’ve presented is the perfect example of a Fool’s Choice. What we mean by this is that we can only see two options that seem diametrically opposed. We don’t see it as a false dichotomy, but as an unfortunate reality. We found these Fool’s Choices to be ubiquitous when doing our research for Crucial Conversations. For example, we commonly heard people say things like, “I can speak up and be mean, or............................

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking

Re-blogged from VitalSmarts India

I feel terribly when speaking at a public place, whether in front of family members or colleagues, or in team conferences. Although I actually have talking points, I struggle to share my thoughts. This is creating problems in my career as well as in my social life. Are you able to share some tips for overcoming my fear of public speaking?

Dear,
You are certainly not alone regarding this fear—in fact, it ranks as many people’s number one fear.
This little bit of humor doesn’t downplay the seriousness of people’s fear to talk publicly. As I address this issue with some recommendation, I take confidence in the conclusion we tend to uncovered when researching our book, Change Anything — people can and do change all the time. I’ll additionally share a number of the principles and techniques from that analysis as well as my own personal experience.

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